Words such as complaining are fascinating. Someone who complains is often thought of as a pain in the neck or toxic in some manner. Then again, others are chastised because they never complain. At least they don’t complain when others think they should. Then there are the so-called nitpickers who complain about everything.

So, the day’s question is, “What do you complain about the most?” My immediate reaction to that question was puzzlement. There was a time when I complained about some things regularly. I still see those behaviors, actions, or outcomes that are irritating, but I learned years ago that complaining is mostly fruitless and harmful.

That does not mean one should never file a complaint or bring a problem to someone’s attention. Complaining about your soup being cold at a fancy restaurant is completely appropriate. Unless, of course, the soup in question is Gazpacho. Or, you had way too many cocktails during happy hour, and you look like a drunk on a comedy show.

Many years ago, I learned there is little value in complaining in many cases. This is especially true if you have nothing to do with the situation causing the complaint or have no way of effectively addressing the complaint.

I know some people feel venting is good for you and helps you avoid carrying around a bunch of angst. They think getting it off your chest is more important than accepting some things are beyond your control.

Learning to let things go was not easy. However, after much study, soul-searching, and practice, I realized complaining can hurt you and those around you. I also found that letting things go often brings about an even better outcome than complaining could. Depending, of course, on your definition of a better outcome.

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